"It's pronounced Ty-ra, not Tia-RAT."
The class laughed. I didn't.
That was my first interaction at an American school, and that one syllable turned my name into a joke. Let me officially introduce myself: my name is Tairat (Ty-rah), and I live in Newark, New Jersey. But I moved here from Nigeria at the age of eight.
No typical eight-year-old would want to leave their friends and family to come to a whole new country and start over again. But not me. I was looking forward to leaving the hard life in Nigeria to start a new one. I was excited to make new friends and finally live in the United States of America.
When I introduced myself, I said my name was Tairat.
"Terat?" they questioned.
"No, Tairat."
"Oh, Tara," my teacher responded.
Deep down I knew that wasn't how you pronounce my name, but my response was, "Yeah, that's my name."
"Why is your name Tara? That's not how it's spelled. It's more like Tiarat. And why is there a rat in your name?" one kid questioned.
Echoes of laughter followed. I felt like a rat in the middle of a circle filled with dinosaurs. I felt embarrassed. I felt ashamed. I was angry. I didn't like my name.
Why did I have to have a rat in my name? Why did my parents have to name me such a name like that? I questioned myself and I questioned my name because it made me the odd one. Why didn't I have a simple name—an American name, an easy American name—something like Sara, Lily, Annabelle? Why did my name have to be different?
I dreaded having to type my name and seeing the red line under it that indicated it was a wrong spelling, even though it was spelled correctly.
From third grade to seventh grade, my name became Tara because it was easier. It was easier for them to pronounce, and it was easier for me because I didn't have to correct people on how to pronounce my name. I didn't have to do the back-and-forth of explaining that the T in my name was silent.
Every time a substitute teacher paused while taking attendance, I braced myself for the laughter that was about to fill the room. I started to hate my name even more. I spent five years having people butcher my name, and I was fine with it.
That was until I met Ms. Masco, my eighth-grade math and homeroom teacher.
I remember the first day of school—I said hi to my friends and prepared for class. And then attendance began. I braced myself to correct Ms. Masco on my name, but deep down, I was ready to tell her the wrong name because that was easier.
"Amor? Here. Essence? Here. Ti—T—"
There it was.
"Umm, it's pronounced Tara," I immediately cut her off, not wanting her to finish. But I still heard snickers. I sighed to myself, realizing this would always be my life.
At the end of the day, Ms. Masco pulled me aside and asked how my first day was. Before I knew it, I started crying and opening up to her. I told her I like my name and I like the spelling of my name, but I hate the way I become when it comes to my name. I hate that every time someone tries to say my name, I become embarrassed and scared because I know they are going to mess it up.
Ms. Masco said only one sentence: "How do you correctly pronounce your name?"
"My name is Tairat."
For the first time, someone didn't question the spelling or ask why it was spelled that way.
The next day, I walked in and Ms. Masco said, "Good morning, Tairat."
I froze. I realized how beautiful my name sounded.
Throughout the day, Ms. Masco called me my real name, and soon enough everyone did.
"Why didn't you correct me when I was pronouncing your name wrong?" people asked. But the only answer I had for them was, "I don't know." I truly didn't know why for years I had people call me the wrong name. I guess I just felt tired of correcting people.
But now, I correct people if they mispronounce my name. Not to embarrass them—but to honor myself. My name made me unique and different, and it took me a while to accept that being different is a good thing. My name became my pride, and I find joy in explaining to people why my name is spelled that way and why the T is silent at the end.
Around ninth grade, I found Keys 2 Success. At first, I only joined because my best friend asked me to. But it has been more than three years since then, and I still find myself coming every day. Not because I became a teacher (not trying to brag), but because the people there became my second family.
Ms. Krska, my teacher, is my second mother. She pushed me out of my bubble so I could reach leadership levels. Keys 2 Success has given me opportunities to find what I truly like and to introduce my name and my culture to multiple people. Keys inserted itself into my daily life, and I refuse to let it leave because it is impossible to leave your family.
It became the reason I found confidence in myself and my name after having to introduce myself to many people through Keys. And I have had people who ask to learn more about my name. I have never been more excited to explain something that represents and honors me.
Tairat Komolafe is a senior at North Star Chartered School and a youth leader at Keys 2 Success.